Wow

wow... she was so beautiful.
She wore a very beautiful violet gown.
She had never been like that before.
She was always sooo not very female
but that time she was.
She was very feminine, elegant and beautiful...
and I was so surprised.

She was amazing.

Another Indonesia Historical Lesson

So I find that amongst millions of Arabs in Indonesia, some Indonesian Arabs speak Arabic and some can even hardly understand the language. And it turned out I found a very interesting fact, most Indonesian Arabs who speak Arabic are those from the non-Alaween group. The Alaween groups are those who are believed to be the descendant of the Muslim prophet Muhammad, mostly they are called the shed or sayyid or sherif. And they don't really speak Arabic. While most of the non-Alaween do speak Arabic in complement with their local language. Why so?
It has historical background.

Yemen, esspecially hadramawt, the place where most Indonesian Arabs were originated from, are known for its caste-like system, and this is esspecially true amongst people in villages, which divides people to some hierarchial groups:
1. The Sheds and Sherrif, being on top of the caste, are people who believed as the prophet descendant
2. The Non Shed Arabs, being the second class
3. The Non-Arabs, being the lowest in the caste system

Though the system had only little or no impact to economy, politic and socio-culture in Indonesia, the system was valued significantly in mating and marriage. And since amongst the Arabs, marriage was one of the very fundamental aspect in life, this system was viewed somewhat important. In the belief, people must marry only within their own class and crossing over was so unfavoured. It was esspecially true in places where people are mostly homogenous (places outside Jakarta for sample). In 1910, it became a very big problem amongst the Indonesian Arabs community and created tension and turmoil between the Alaween and the non-Alaween.

It was started in a happening when a chinese male converted to Islam and married to a woman from Alaween group. It delivered anxiety and discomfort amongst Arabs community in Jamiat Kheyr (the first modern Indonesian Arab organization). Sheikh Ahmed Sukarti Al Anshari, a Islamic teacher from Mecca who was one of Islamic teachers in the organization, exhaled out a fatwa or a legal law pronouncement in Islam, that such marriage was legal since Islam didn't regard people based on ethnicity, tribes, race or nationality. Ahmed Sukarti exclaimed that the only term required for marriage in Islam was the faith and the good moral. The caste system applied that day was not comming from Islam and it wasn't islamic. Ahmed stated that such law in marriage was hadramawt culture and Islam was higher than the culture and must be obeyed more than anything.

This fatwa provoked anger of some people, esspecially amongst the alaween, but others stood in to speak out their agreement and support for the fatwa, esspecially amongst the non-Alaween.
From the conflict about marriage law, the battle continued and creeped to other religious problems and teachings. The Alaween believed that one must learn Islam by following and learning from some good and profound ulema or religious leader, and Ahmed Sukarti believed this was a falsehood. That what made people following the wrong teachings such as the marriage system by the hadramawt ulema and regarded it as Islamic. Ahmed insisted one must learned Islam directly from the source: Quran and Hadith, not by following some religious sheikh.

This tension continued and the Jamiat broke into two radical groups, those who insisted on the caste system and those who followed Ahmed Sukarti to break the old tradition. In 1914, Ahmed Sukarti resigned from Jamiat and established his own Arab Indonesian Islamic organization known as Al Irshad, which focused on Islamic teachings, building economy, education and political power to free Indonesia from the Dutch collony. Ahmed Sukarti met Ahmad Dahlan, one of prominent ulemas in Indonesia and asked him to established a muslim Indonesian native Islamic organization. Ahmad Dahlan found Muhammadiya, and today Al Irshad has become the sub-organization of the most prominent Islamic organization in Indonesia.

Since one of the most important teaching of Ahmed Sukarti, the founder of Al Irshad, is to study Islam directly from the source: Quran and Hadith, and since the Quran is written in Arabic, he stated the importance of studying and understanding the Arabic language. That's why his followers regarded the Arabic language to be one of the most importance site in studying Islam.

Until today, most Arabs of his followers speak and understand Arabic.

I luv this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9lp0IWv8QZY

Flowchart

I can't believe such parent

I can't believe such parent exists.

I have a friend of Yemeni Arab descend and what makes me annoyed was that her parents didn't want her to go to school because she was a woman. Well she went to school but when she was junior high and about to go to high school, her father told her not to, and he said he would give just anything money, cars, etc but she didn't go to school. But luckily her mom wanted her to go to school and she went. And I was like, "what??? your father did that to you?!" in disbelieved. And she said yes.

And another friend of mine, an indonesian native, asked, "do arabs do that? their women don't go to school?"

And she said "yes". And I said, "No!"

And there went we fought. And in the middle of the fight I told her that because her parents went to Saudi religious school that's no wonder why, his mind had been poisoned by some retard sheikhs with beard. I told her most Arabs in Indonesia went to school and they all see education as very important even more than the natives. All Indonesian Arab women are of very educated and very smart and intelligent. She was the only uneducated Arab woman I know in here. And she was pissed and agree with her father said education was unimportant.

She's crazy. And her father is crazier. Her father was an example of a nutcase male chauvinistic hog. I had been always reading about that in newspaper, but never in real life. Now I see the real example and until now I still can't believe this really really exists.

How come parents don't want their kids to go to school??? I can't understand.

Mother's Day

I believe in love at first sight.
It was when the first time I saw my mother's eyes. And I don't know if I could ever love another woman like that.

Okay now I started to feel

I feel so afraid
and intimidated
and worry
and anxious

about my health

Sex n the city and Confession of a sopaholic

Yes the two are what women these days take example from.

And if they think that makes them sexier, prettier, funnier... I don't think so

Astrological Relationship Pattern

(Linda Goodman)

Yesterday I was cracking up some old books and I found out an old one called "Love Sign" by Linda Goodman and I was like, "whoooah I used to like this one". A very thick book of astrology talking about relationship between zodiac signs.

So I want to write down a summary what is called as "Astrological Relationship Pattern" just in case I forgot. There are some known patterns of relationship between zodiacs especially in romance mentioned in Linda Goodman's Love Sign. I'm not a Love guru but here they go:

There are 7 patterns : 1-1, 2-12, 3-11, 4-10, 5-9, 6-8, 7-7.

First off, we must be able to determine what kind of pattern created between two sun-signs. This is how to calculate it. I will use an example:

Virgo and Leo, they form 2-12 relationship pattern, the distance between Leo to Virgo is 2 house (the reference house is also counted), and the distance between Virgo to Leo is 12 and we are using this series of house:
Aries-Taurus-Gemini-Cancer-Leo-Virgo-Libra-Scorpio-Sagittarius-Capricorn-Aquarius-Pisces.

So Aries and Libra would be 7-7 pattern, and Leo and Capricorn, and Capricorn and Gemini would be 6-8 pattern.

Explanation of pattern

1-1 pattern
The feeling of interest between the two people usually arises because of similarities between them both, they usually share common traits or character or background or hobby, that what bind them two. This kind of relationship works best when each of the pair shares common interest or similarity in a large space. Whenever each has no or little common things to share, each would hardly to get interested and the relationship wouldn't work. This is the relationship between people of the same zodiac sign.

2-12 pattern
This is the pattern of guru and student relationship. One of the couple would take position as the teacher and another would be his/her follower. One would become the wise and the other as the pupil of wisdom. One would lead the direction as the other would follow. One would become the parent and the other as the child. This relationship works best when one is in higher status in financial power, social influence, etc and the other is on lower lever. The example of this relationship are Aries and Taurus, Gemini and Cancer, etc.

3-11 pattern This is the pattern of friendship. Love will arise when they both become a very good friend, within the time they've shared all things that matter between them both. The relationship would be based on friendship, equality and closeness. They will never abandon each other as friend never would do. Usually love will come between them when they've known each other for so long. The example of this pattern are Libra-Sagittarius, Sagittarius-Aquarius, Scorpio-Capricorn, etc.

4-10 pattern
Interest and love usually comes when the two come from different source. Differences attract, that how we describe 4-11 pattern. They will find each other as interesting because of his/her differences in background, hobby, point of view, etc. Even when years had gone by, the two would still find each other as new as they first met. Exoticism, journey, challenge, exploration and travel is what this relationship all about. The example of this pattern are Aries - Cancer, Aries - Capricorn, Libra - Capricorn, etc.

5-9 pattern
This is the type of relationship which is highly driven by feeling, emotion, and sexuality. People call this relationship as eros love. Physical closeness, emotional expression, tears, angers, laughes ,cries, etc would color this relationship. This is most dramatic relationship of all. The two couple will bind each other by emotional depth and express their love through physical touches and eroticism. The example of this pattern are Capricorn-Taurus, Gemini-Aquarius, Cancer-Pisces, Aries-Leo, etc.

6-8 pattern While 5-9 pattern is driven by emotion, 6-8 pattern is driven by rational brain, set of rules, system, social ethic and value, culture, etc. This is called formal relationship. The two would enjoy the love when the two are living within set of rules they both agree upon. Family and friends and other social surroundings have high influence of how the couple will flow. This is a common view within traditional conservative family. The example of this pattern are Aries-Virgo, Cancer-Sagittarius, Libra-Pisces, etc.

7-7 pattern This type of pattern is called intellectual relationship. Love and interest may arise when the two share the same degree of education, financial power, family status, etc. This pattern is about competition, strugle and completion. When the two are from the same sex, they surely would hate each other, jealousy, envy, etc would arise. But when the two are of different sex, they may build bussiness together, or do some research together, etc. Honor and mutual respect become fundamental base of this relationship. The example of this pattern are Gemini-Sagittarius, Capricorn-Cancer, Pisces-Virgo, etc.

Okay there's that. You may believe or not believe in Astrology. But this may one of knowledge you may share and who knows it might be usefull.

FAcebook n Firefox

First off I hate new layout of facebook. Come on. I like the old one, log in and it displays all the recent news and status and stuffs all at one page. What the hell are the facebook guys thinking ?

Second off, since I update my firefox, things go wrong! It crashes many times. I hate it. Google chrome is okay but it doesn't provide any plugg in. And no I don't want to mention internet explorer. It's worse.

Oh how I really miss moments of internet stability and simplicity.